Powerful Mindsets: Owner vs Victim
- Doreen Milano, CPC
- Business Advice, Business Coaching, Doreen Milano, Leadership, mindset, victimhood
There are two very powerful mindsets we all have: Owner and Victim
When was the last day you walked into work and you didn’t want to be there? Have you been stressed or overwhelmed by not having enough time?
You are not alone.I was thinking about my clients one day after a very lively discussion with a particular company about how key people were taking on the role of victim in the business.
I am sure many of you would say “Not me, she’s not talking about me”. If you are human, you have the Owner/Victim Choice running in your life at some level.
The owner mindset is very different from the victim mindset. Owners make things happen, victims wait to see what will happen. Owners choose, victims have things happen to them. Owners do the most important thing they commit, victims try.
We all have the ability to choose what we think and how we behave.
The victim mindset can ruin a business very quickly. A couple of years ago I had the owner of a thriving company call me because he wanted to close the business after a quarter of non-performance.
A couple of hours of investigation unveiled a prevalent victim mindset with the sales force. To solve the problem, we had to shift the mindset.
Would you be surprised if I told you we all play victim from time to time. And yes, there are those who have turned victimhood into an art form!
What I got to notice was how often victimization creeps into the owner experience. When this happens, there are a number of missteps that can occur. To be honest, no one recognized operating from the victim mindset! Check the list below. All were surprised when the language and mindset of a victim were distinguished.
What I have been amazed by is the number of occurrences where business owners and key employees are enveloped in victim language. The sad reality is, the victim language becomes a bad habit.
We’re not Stuck
The good news is Habits were meant to be broken! This cycle is not fatal unless we allow it to be! We are in charge and in control of how and what we think. We are in charge of our choices!
Check out the lists below and see to what degree you are in the owner column.
Make choices if you fall into the victim column that put you back in the owner list.
Distinctions of Owner / Victim
Language is the clear distinction between the Owner language/mindset and the Victim Language/mindset. These distinctions were made clear in the training I received, and beautifully outlined in a recording by Steve Chandler. Listen to the Steve Chandler recording link listed below.
There is a cycle that Steve Chandler, talks about, “Owner/Victim Choice”.
Owner Language/ Mindset:
- Uses life as a platform for building
- Gaines from each event
- I want to
- I choose to
- I intend to
- I want to do this now
- How can I do this?
- Can I use this to Improve?
- What can I do?
- Team Based
- Commitment (decisions)
- Just Chooses to be Happy
- Brings happiness into the relationship
- When there is a problem – I am the problem
- I am the solution
- Who do I need to BE?
- How do I need to BE?
- Busy – Fun – Focus
- There should not be problems
- Accepts responsibility
- Is Proactive
- Life uses me
- I just have to GET THROUGH
- I should
- I ought to
- I am obligated to
- I have to live up to others expectations
- I’m stressed
- I’m overwhelmed
- I’m swamped
- Why does this happen to me?
- Who can I blame
- I isolate myself
- I am forced to
- Committed (feeling)
- Happiness is based on people, Places and Things
- Takes from the relationship
- Do not want to think about problems
- Problems multiply
- Why am I the way I am
- What do I do?
- Is Reactive
Get more room to create success in your business by shifting the victim to the
Resources: Steve Chandler